Are You a Player?

Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“Is a sexual magnetic man automatically a player?”

Short answer: No!

Being a sexually magnetic man or a woman, won’t automatically make you a player.

But let’s first define it so we can all on the same page:

The dictionary definition of a player is:

“a confident, successful man with many sexual partners.”

The key aspect here is having many sexual partners.

While to be sexually magnetic (whether men or woman) you only need to project sexuality around you – which leads to sexual attraction from others.

Whether you have many sexual partners or not, is fully your choice.

This may seem strange for you but there are plenty of sexually magnetic men and women who rarely have sex.

Not because they don’t have the opportunity, but because they refuse it or don’t want it.

And that’s a perfectly valid choice.

Granted, that those are usually the “natural” sexually magnetic individuals and not those like you or me, who have to train for it.

When you train to reach a certain status of sexual magnetism, you will tend to have many sexual partners.

At least for a time period. Then, I’ve seen two things happen:

1) You do become a player and end up living this type of lifestyle for a long time.

2) You settle down with a high quality partner that you found.

Sexual magnetism gives you an advantage. What you do with that advantage is always a choice.

Start your sexual energy training with the course:
>>> Sexual Energy Mastery

Approach Anxiety and Sexual Magnetism

Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“Does a sexual man have approach anxiety?”

Depends on how you FEEL (and what you consider) approach anxiety.

It’s perfectly normal to have the “butterflies in your stomach feeling” when approaching some stranger you find attractive.

In fact, something must feel necessarily different in you. Otherwise there would be no difference in approaching an old lady on a bus stop or an attractive woman.

Whether you feel it or not, sexual energy is generated automatically when you see someone you find attractive.

Now, the problem is when it’s associated with a paralyzing fear that doesn’t allow you to do anything or simply become obsessively nervous.

What happens in this situation is that you may even start with this “butterflies in your stomach” type of feeling, but it quickly escalates it to paralyzing fear.

Then you become already conditioned and fearful of the whole experience – based on a whole range of past events.

Yet, the most common reason to avoid approaching someone you find attractive is not even paralyzing fear. It’s rationalization.

You tend to think of ways of why you shouldn’t interact with that person. And naturally find many other reasons. So, most of the time, the problem is not paralyzing fear.

If you are a sexually magnetic person you can feel this “butterflies in your stomach” feeling, you can still be shy and not approach strangers that often.

It’s not like you need to approach strangers to be sexually magnetic.

This is a type of energy inside of you, not something you do (or don’t do).

As we discussed before, being sexually magnetic does not mean you are extroverted. There are plenty of sexually magnetic individuals who are shy.

And how about the “paralyzing fear”? Can you still have it?

Depends on how you develop your sexual magnetism.

In theory, a “natural” sexually magnetic individual could be fearful of initiating the approach of a stranger. Someone who hasn’t trained or developed himself (or herself).

Yet, this person could be very sexually magnetic. Most likely, he or she always had people approaching them, not the other way around.

But, the way we teach sexual (and personal) magnetism in Charisma School, we aim to eradicate this fear and establish inner power and a solid Will.

So the paralyzing fear would vanish.

That’s why inner power is a prequel to all trainings of sexual energy. It’s simply much harder to do without it.

Start your inner power training with the 10 Steps to Inner Power, and proceed to the Sexual Energy Mastery to discover your own sexual magnetism.

Becoming Sexually Magnetic

Here’s an interesting question from a student:

“While undergoing training of being a sexual man, do you gradually become sexually magnetic or do you suddenly become magnetic sexually?”

It’s actually both.

Although it seems paradoxical, it’s not.

As you are training to become sexually magnetic – considering you weren’t born with it – you are following a gradual process.

You are doing your exercises, applying the techniques, decreasing your energy leaks, doing your own experiments in the real world.

With this training, little by little, your sexual magnetism increases.

You start to have small successes, yet, you don’t yet feel sexually magnetic. After all, the successes are still small.

Since this happens very slowly over the course of time, you just feel almost the same. Yet, the external world starts to shift.

You get sexual attraction. Your results increase and start to be bigger. Sexual attraction now becomes a part of your life.

And at some moment, a realization dawns upon you that you already are sexually magnetic. It may be due to some event, or due to a combination of events or even by you looking back at how you were and how you are now.

As with any gradual process, it’s easy to lose track of your past self.

When this realization hits you, then your sexual magnetism really sinks in and you start to build on it. Your psychology and mindset can now truly adjust to your new reality. And a whole new range of possibilities open up for you.

So in that sense, it’s a sudden change, that is built on a gradual process.

In practice, there may even be several “mini-realizations” of your sexual magnetism over the course of your training. Your first success, a run of successes, a particularly difficult attraction and so on.

But there will usually be one “big realization” that you’re now a different person. A sexually magnetic man.

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>>> Sexual Energy Mastery


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